just how I feel today

Do you ever one of those days where you just feel not good enough? I am sure that most people feel like this at some point in their lives but I seem to feel like this often. I try to talk to people about it but it always seems like I am fishing for compliments or something. I am not. I just feel like I am not the person people want me to be. Now I know that the only person that truly matters is me but we all want  people to accept us and like us. Right now I feel as if I am letting everyone down including myself and I am not sure how to fix that feeling. I am feeling like if I just stopped doing whatever it is that I am doing that seems to annoy everyone then everyone would be happy with me. The problem is I don't know what it is I am doing wrong and when I ask no one seems to be able to tell me exactly what it is...they do tell me that I do things that make them angry but that can't seem to explain exactly what that is. Mostly I get " I don't like the way you express your feelings" or " I don't like it when you talk to other people about what is going on in the house"... I am not sure how to change how I express myself other than to watch my tone of voice and try to think about what I am saying before I say it. As far as talking to other people...well that's just how I process stuff. I gather opinions, ideas and perceptions and go from there...I am a counselor that's what we do. I am not sure how to change that or if I should change that. I am an advocate for change, but I am also aware of the motivations for change, the best  motivation should be the want or need to better yourself for yourself....changing to make some one like you more does not seem healthy to me. I want  certain people to WANT to be around me and I feel like I am spinning my wheels trying to make that happen and its just not working.